Problems continually arise

I was born in the Year of the Oxen and my birth sign is Taurus. I am very stubborn. George was not born under either of these signs but boy is he stubborn too. He has always followed the beat of his own drum and just done the things he wants to do when he wants to it.  He has never argued about he just does it and finally others fall in with him. One of his sons told me that the only things George has ever been on time for was trains and planes as they won't wait!

He appears very fearful of standing or walking. He doesn't sit up himself.  He curls up and makes it very hard for people caring for him. It is taking four of them to get him out of bed. What we are all trying to do is just encourage him to try to stand. He is often most in willing to try and will become very agitated. It is so hard to understand just what has brought this on and whether we are going to be able to get him mobile.

Another worrying pattern which is emerging is his reluctance to eat his meals. Yesterday he would not feed himself. I tried to feed him but he puts his tongue over so no food will go in. I tried to persevere but he got more and more distressed and was almost in tears.he tried to tell me that the food was for the poor children in India. In the end I had to give up as he was becoming distressed.

It is a real worry. If he continues to need four people to manage him he will be reassessed at hospital level care.

Here we have

1. Rest home level - normal and able to move about freely
2. Hospital level - mobility issues or other physical problems
3. Dementia level - secure level
4. Advanced dementia level - secure unit with a high staff level to cope with the extra dementia problems

Our Hospital Board assess all of the residents for the homes. The different homes cater for different levels. If George is reassessed at hospital level I will have to find another home catering for that level.  There are also the problems associated with moving and settling into a new environment. I am extremely worried about all this as it is obviously looming. 

I try so hard to ensure that George has the best quality of life possible but sometimes it is hard to know how to do this.