This is so sad and I am sure is because of families leaving their home towns and making lives in other places.This did not happen in earlier times (and still does not in some families) and the families would gather round and share looking after their elderly family members.
Today many families do not worry too much about the elderly members of their families. Often the elderly are put into rest homes where they spend all day in their room. Once in a rest home many family members feel that they are OK there and don't make the effort to go and visit very often.
Going in to visit and take the time to talk and have a special time with your family member/friend is so important to them, don't just think that they are OK.
Often when a family is living in all different places, or for other reasons, there is one member of the family who does most of the caring for the person. If you are a member of a family where this is occurring and you are not the primary caregiver don't forget to acknowledge this and don't forget that it is often costing a lot of money to give your loved one the quality of life you would want for them. Do you envisage reimbursing some of this to the caregiver or do you just expect that that is what they should do? Just remember too that this caregiver can also become quite isolated due to their commitment - acknowledge and thank them appropriately - don't be half hearted about it, remember how much they are taking off your shoulders. Criticizing whatever they are doing does not help them. Just a few thoughts.
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